We all meet the new year at the same time, and birthday is an individual date for each of us. In the Fate Matrix system, the cycle of a personal year is considered from one birthday to the next.
In this approach, birthdays are not only related to growing old. It can become an opportunity to stop, look back on the past year, evaluate your own experiences and think about where you are going and what you want to change in your life.
Why do we have trouble making new plans?
At the beginning of the year, many people set new goals, make plans and promise themselves changes. However, after a few weeks, it often returns to the old rhythm.
This does not always mean a lack of will. Sometimes we want to change, but our habits, attitudes and unresolved issues keep bringing us back to our old ways.
It could be a relationship in which we neglect our own needs, a job we pursue only out of obligation, or a decision we keep putting off.
When we want to move forward, but our behaviors and choices remain the same, it becomes difficult to achieve new goals.
Therefore, before making new plans, ask yourself two questions:
What have I learned over the past year and what am I repeating without even realizing it?
Honest answers to these questions will help you better see what has changed in you and what still needs your attention.
How can the Destiny Matrix help you?
If you have your destiny matrix, your birthday is a good opportunity to revisit it and compare the themes of the map to your own real-life experiences.
Pay attention to the areas that are important to you: finances and sales, relationships, family experiences and personal development.
Remember last year. Does the same situation repeat itself with different people or in different environments? Perhaps you often give up on your desires in relationships, start a new business, but doubt your abilities along the way, or face the same difficulties over and over with your financial goals.
It is important not only to see a recurring situation, but to think about what role you yourself play in this process and what you can change.
The fate matrix can be one of the tools of self-awareness, which will help you to see your own experience in a different way and to think about certain issues. Change begins when you observe your own behaviors, ask questions, and turn your insights into real action.
Practice: The Five Steps of the Personal Year
Take time for yourself in the days before or after your birthday. Preferably, spend about an hour or two working with yourself. Put down your phone, get a paper and a pen ready and try to write the answers by hand.
The main thing is to answer yourself honestly and not try to find the perfect answer to every question.
Step One: Evaluate the six areas of the year
Write six directions on a piece of paper:
1. Finances
2. Realization
3. Relationships
4. Family
5. Taking care of yourself
6. Internal state
Rate each area from 1 to 10 based on how satisfied you are with the results of the past year in this area.
Then add one sentence to each that begins, "In this area, last year, the main thing was . . ."
Try not to think only about achievements. Remember what was difficult for you, what you learned and what changed in your attitude.
Finally, circle the area in which you are most dissatisfied and the one in which you see the most progress.
The first will identify an area that needs more attention, and the second will remind you what is already working well and what is worth continuing.
Step Two: Find a recurring scenario
Ask yourself the question:
What situation repeated itself last year so that I ended up with the same result with different people or under different circumstances?
Choose one specific example.
Perhaps you often agree to things you don't really want. You may be procrastinating, doubting your own abilities, or overestimating the judgment of others.
Remember a specific case and think:
- What happened?
- How did I do?
- What was I thinking at that moment?
- What result did I get?
- What could I do differently?
If you are using the Fate Matrix, you can also compare this experience to the themes of your chart. The main thing is to pay attention to your own behaviors, thoughts and choices.
Then ask yourself: If this situation happens again, what can I do differently this time?
The goal is not to blame yourself. The goal is to see the part you can influence.
Step Three: Decide What You're Accomplishing
Write down two or three things you want to change or finish.
It could be a habit that's holding you back, a conversation you keep putting off, or an expectation that no longer matches reality.
Add a specific action and deadline to each item.
For example, instead of writing, "I want to put an end to this matter," define exactly what you will do and when.
If you need an honest conversation, decide when you will make time for it. If you want to change a certain habit, think about what you will replace it with.
Remember, ending doesn't always mean stopping something. Sometimes it is a decision not to demand the impossible from yourself, to look at a past mistake with a different eye or to change your attitude in a situation that you cannot change.
It is important to distinguish between what you can change and what you cannot control.
Step Four: Choose what you're starting
Now determine one or two areas that you will pay special attention to in the new personal year.
Choose goals that are truly important to you, not just because you feel others expect you to do so.
Answer three questions for each goal.
First: Do I really want this?
Imagine that no one will know about this goal and no one will have to evaluate your results. Will you still have the desire to implement it?
This question will help you distinguish your own desire from the expectations of others.
Second: What is even one small step that I can take on a difficult day?
If your goal is to take care of your own development, maybe ten minutes a day is enough to start. If you want to start a new business, the first step may be to find information or make a concrete plan.
Define the goal so specifically that its fulfillment does not depend only on motivation.
Third: What will I do in the next 72 hours?
Determine the first action and the time when you will do it.
In this way, the goal will no longer remain just a wish and will turn into a real plan.
Step Five: Write a letter to yourself
Write a short letter that you will read on your next birthday.
Describe how you want to feel after a year, what you want to learn, what change you would be happy to see and which old scenario you don't want to repeat.
You can also ask yourself the following questions:
- What do I want to better understand in the next year?
- Which habit do I want to work on?
- What do I want more of in my life?
- What no longer corresponds to my current desires and values?
You don't have to predict what your life will be like a year from now. The purpose of the letter is not to accurately predict the future, but to understand one's own wishes and priorities.
Then add three reminders to your phone's calendar: three, six, and nine months later.
Attach one question to each reminder:
"What have I changed during this time and what changes does my plan need?"
In this way, during the year you will return to your goals, you will see the progress and if necessary, you will be able to change the direction.
It is important not to turn this practice into another way of putting pressure on yourself. If you don't meet any of your goals, it doesn't mean the year was a failure. Perhaps your priorities have changed, new circumstances have arisen or you have found another way.
The main thing is to look at your own experience honestly and learn from it.
A birthday may just be a holiday, but it's also a good opportunity to stop and listen to yourself.
It is not necessary to start the new personal year with grandiose plans or to resolve all old issues in advance. It is enough to realize where you are now, what you don't want to repeat and in which direction you want to continue.
Change doesn't just start with a new date. It begins when you look at yourself honestly, realize your choices and are ready to take the necessary steps.
At the beginning of a new personal year, ask yourself:
What am I leaving behind and what am I choosing from now on - not because I have to, but because it really matters to me?
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